Proverbs 2-4: The Path to Wisdom

Proverbs 2-4 Introduction

In these first nine chapters of Proverbs, a play of sorts is going on with different characters. There are three voices, one listener. The voices are those of Lady Wisdom, Lady Folly, and a father, whom we assume is Solomon. The son is the listener. We are to put ourselves in his place. He must choose a path for his life.

Will he choose wisdom or folly?
Will we choose wisdom or folly?

The Father (sometimes a mother) speaks to the son about his choices. As the scene plays out, four types of people are discussed as examples to the son (or us). The four types of people are:

Simple.
Fool.
Scoffer.
Wise.

All three voices are battling for the soul of one type of person: the simple. The Father and mother are teaching their young and simple son. Lady Wisdom and Lady Folly want all the simple in their camp. The three other types of people mentioned—the fool, the scoffer, and the wise—have made choices.

What is the difference between Lady Wisdom and Lady Folly in Proverbs?

The fool and the scoffer chose Lady Folly. The wise chose Lady Wisdom. Lady Wisdom also tries to recruit the fool, the scoffer, and the simple. But Lady Folly does not try to recruit the wise.

Scene 1: If You Listen to Wisdom, Wisdom Will Protect You

Proverbs 2:1-22

My son, if you accept my words and store up my commands within you, ² turning your ear to wisdom and applying your heart to understanding— ³ indeed, if you call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding, ⁴ and if you look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden treasure,

⁵ then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God. ⁶ For the Lord gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding. ⁷ He holds success in store for the upright, he is a shield to those whose walk is blameless, ⁸ for he guards the course of the just and protects the way of his faithful ones.

⁹ Then you will understand what is right and just and fair—every good path. ¹⁰ For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul. ¹¹ Discretion will protect you, and understanding will guard you.

¹² Wisdom will save you from the ways of wicked men, from men whose words are perverse, ¹³ who have left the straight paths to walk in dark ways, ¹⁴ who delight in doing wrong and rejoice in the perverseness of evil, ¹⁵ whose paths are crooked and who are devious in their ways.

¹⁶ Wisdom will save you also from the adulterous woman, from the wayward woman with her seductive words, ¹⁷ who has left the partner of her youth and ignored the covenant she made before God. ¹⁸ Surely her house leads down to death and her paths to the spirits of the dead. ¹⁹ None who go to her return or attain the paths of life.

²⁰ Thus you will walk in the ways of the good and keep to the paths of the righteous. ²¹ For the upright will live in the land, and the blameless will remain in it; ²² but the wicked will be cut off from the land, and the unfaithful will be torn from it.

Choosing Wisdom

The father in this lesson sets out a straightforward if-then case for choosing wisdom. If his son listens, then he will understand.

Proverbs 2:9 ⁹ Then you will understand what is right and just and fair—every good path.

And on that good path, he will be protected from the two dangerous figures.

Proverbs 2:12 ¹² Wisdom will save you from the ways of wicked men…

Who have left the straight path for the crooked path.

Proverbs 2:16 ¹⁶ Wisdom will save you also from the adulterous woman…

The End Result

The father ends by laying out the result of the good and evil path. Those on the good path receive the promise given to Abraham and echoed in the Law of Moses.

Deuteronomy 4:40 ⁴⁰ Keep his decrees and commands, which I am giving you today, so that it may go well with you and your children after you and that you may live long in the land the Lord your God gives you for all time.

And according to Moses, those who choose the evil path will lose the promise.

Deuteronomy 28:58 ⁵⁸ If you do not carefully follow all the words of this law, which are written in this book…

Deuteronomy 28:63 ⁶³ …You will be uprooted from the land you are entering to possess.

Psalm 37:11 ¹¹ But the meek will inherit the land and enjoy peace and prosperity.

And Jesus quotes this very line in the Sermon on the Mount:

Matthew 5:5 ⁵ Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.

And the apostle Paul ties it to the Father-Son teaching of Proverbs.

Ephesians 6:2 ² “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— ³ “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”

Honoring father and mother is one of the 10 Commandments, so the son who listens to his father stands under that same promise.

So what land is ultimately in view?

The Book of Hebrews suggests that the Old Testament heroes such as Noah, Abraham, Sarah, Isaac, Jacob, and more mentioned in Hebrews 11 were really searching for an eternal home.

Hebrews 11:13 ¹³ All these people were still living by faith when they died. They did not receive the things promised; they only saw them and welcomed them from a distance, admitting that they were foreigners and strangers on earth.

Hebrews 11:16 ¹⁶ Instead, they were longing for a better country—a heavenly one. Therefore God is not ashamed to be called their God, for he has prepared a city for them.

We have a path to such a city, an eternal home: Jesus is the way. The Bible is the guide to wisdom. Like the son to whom Solomon is speaking in Proverbs 2, we must make the choice. Will we follow Jesus on the good path? Are our choices reflecting our longing for a future home with Him? What type of seed are we in this land we are living in? Jesus asked this question in Matthew.

Matthew 13:3-9 ³ Then he told them many things in parables, saying: “A farmer went out to sow his seed. ⁴ As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path, and the birds came and ate it up. ⁵ Some fell on rocky places, where it did not have much soil. It sprang up quickly, because the soil was shallow. ⁶ But when the sun came up, the plants were scorched, and they withered because they had no root. ⁷ Other seed fell among thorns, which grew up and choked the plants. ⁸ Still other seed fell on good soil, where it produced a crop—a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown. ⁹ Whoever has ears, let them hear.”

The seed is the Word, and it falls on us. We are the soil. So the question is, which soil are we?

The hard path where the seed is snatched away.
The rocky ground where it is scorched.
The thorns where it is choked.
The good soil where it takes root and produces a crop.

It is so interesting that Jesus ends here with, “ Whoever has ears, let them hear.” And we opened this episode with the father admonishing his son to that.

Proverbs 2:1-2 ¹ My son, if you accept my words and store up my commands within you, ² turning your ear to wisdom and applying your heart to understanding—

Solomon is asking his son to hear him. Jesus is asking us to hear Him.

To follow the good path.
Take root in the good land.
And produce an eternal crop.

Scene 2: Trust in the Lord, He Will Reveal the Path to Life

Proverbs 3:1-20

¹ My son, do not forget my teaching, but keep my commands in your heart, ² for they will prolong your life many years and bring you peace and prosperity.

³ Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. ⁴ Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man.

⁵ Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; ⁶ in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

⁷ Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and shun evil. ⁸ This will bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones.

⁹ Honor the Lord with your wealth, with the firstfruits of all your crops; ¹⁰ then your barns will be filled to overflowing, and your vats will brim over with new wine.

¹¹ My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline, and do not resent his rebuke, ¹² because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in.

¹³ Blessed are those who find wisdom, those who gain understanding, ¹⁴ for she is more profitable than silver and yields better returns than gold. ¹⁵ She is more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare with her. ¹⁶ Long life is in her right hand; in her left hand are riches and honor. ¹⁷ Her ways are pleasant ways, and all her paths are peace. ¹⁸ She is a tree of life to those who take hold of her; those who hold her fast will be blessed.

¹⁹ By wisdom the Lord laid the earth’s foundations, by understanding he set the heavens in place; ²⁰ by his knowledge the watery depths were divided, and the clouds let drop the dew.

Solomon, the father, begins this lesson about God with his son by pulling from the Torah. He says: keep my commands in your heart, bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Solomon is pulling from Moses and Deuteronomy 6.

Deuteronomy 6 ⁴ Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. ⁵ Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. ⁶ These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. ⁷ Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. ⁸ Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. ⁹ Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.

This section of the Torah is called the Shema, which means to hear or listen in Hebrew. It is the declaration of faith in Judaism that is still prayed every morning and evening by devout Jews. The Shema is a parenting text.

How does Proverbs 3 draw from the Shema in Deuteronomy 6?

In Deuteronomy, Moses tells parents to teach their children, and in Proverbs, you get to hear a parent actually doing it. Moses is asking Israel to hear him and to pass this wisdom to their children. Solomon is asking his son to hear him and, in doing so, is passing wisdom to his child.

Then Solomon states a phrase that I love because favor is one of my favorite words:

Proverbs 3:4 ⁴ Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man.

Fast forward to Jesus in Luke 2:51, when Jesus was young, and his parents lost Him in Jerusalem because He was teaching in the Temple courts when He was supposed to be on the road home with them.

Luke 2:51-52 ⁵¹ Then he went down to Nazareth with them and was obedient to them. But his mother treasured all these things in her heart. ⁵² And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man.

Note first that Jesus obeyed His parents, keeping the commandment to honor His parents. But also note how Jesus grew: in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man. Solomon’s advice to his son in Proverbs was almost the same. He advised his son that if he was faithful, then he would win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man.

Solomon advised it.
Jesus did it.
We should follow their lead.

Make it a goal to grow in wisdom and favor with God and man. Proverbs provides us with the path to how.

Wisdom is a blessing, and Solomon describes her as better than silver or gold, with which he would be very familiar. Then he states something we should not miss. He says wisdom is the Tree of Life, and if we take hold of her, we will be blessed. Well, hello, Tree of Life, our old friend from Genesis. The Tree of Life is only mentioned 12 times in the Bible:

Four times in Genesis.
Four times in Proverbs.
Four times in Revelation.

In other words, four times in the beginning, four in the book on living wisely, and four in the end. Proverbs is the only book in between that uses the phrase. The meaning of that is a Bible bender.

Back to Proverbs 3:18 about wisdom being the Tree of Life.First, let’s look back to Genesis 2-3 where the tree is first mentioned. In Genesis 2, God planted the Garden of Eden and:

Genesis 2:9 ⁹ …In the middle of the garden were the tree of life and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.

And he gave instructions about the garden:

Genesis 2:16-17 ¹⁶ And the Lord God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; ¹⁷ but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.”

But we know from Genesis 3 that the commandment was broken because:

Genesis 3:6-7 ⁶ When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. ⁷ Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves.

Here is the irony: Adam and Eve had access to the Tree of Life. But Genesis 3:6 says Eve saw the forbidden fruit on the tree of the knowledge of good and evil as "desirable for gaining wisdom."

What is the difference between wisdom and knowledge in the Bible?

Eve wanted wisdom, but what she gained was knowledge. Wisdom and knowledge are not the same thing, and what she lost was access to the tree of eternal life.

Genesis 3:22 ²² And the Lord God said, “The man has now become like one of us, knowing good and evil. He must not be allowed to reach out his hand and take also from the tree of life and eat, and live forever.” ²³ So the Lord God banished him from the Garden of Eden to work the ground from which he had been taken. ²⁴ After he drove the man out, he placed on the east side of the Garden of Eden cherubim and a flaming sword flashing back and forth to guard the way to the tree of life.

God had to bar access to the Tree of Life lest man live forever in sin. Because with disobedience came sin, and with sin came death. So Eve grasped for wisdom from the forbidden tree and lost access to the Tree of Life.

Proverbs 3:13-18 ¹³ Blessed are those who find wisdom, those who gain understanding, ¹⁴ for she is more profitable than silver and yields better returns than gold. ¹⁵ She is more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare with her. ¹⁶ Long life is in her right hand; in her left hand are riches and honor. ¹⁷ Her ways are pleasant ways, and all her paths are peace. ¹⁸ She is a tree of life to those who take hold of her; those who hold her fast will be blessed.

Why is wisdom called the Tree of Life in Proverbs 3:18?

In the book of Proverbs, God points us toward the path back to life, and that path starts with the fear of the Lord. As we learned in Proverbs 1:7, the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. Now we learn that wisdom is the Tree of Life, open to anyone who will take hold. And if they do, they will be blessed, which Revelation 22 confirms.

Revelation 22:14 ¹⁴ “Blessed are those who wash their robes, that they may have the right to the tree of life and may go through the gates into the city.

The final piece to the puzzle of eternal life and the way back to that Tree of Life has been revealed to us in the New Testament. First, here in Proverbs 3:19 it is said, “¹⁹ By wisdom the Lord laid the earth’s foundations.” We know from John 1:1 that Jesus, described as “the Word,” was with God in the beginning. All things were made through Him and “in him was life.” In other words, Jesus was always the plan.

How is Jesus the fulfillment of Lady Wisdom in Proverbs?

Jesus is the way, or path, to eternal life. He is also Wisdom itself. Wisdom finds its ultimate identity in Jesus. In John 14, Jesus says:

John 14:6 ⁶ …“I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.

And in 1 Corinthians 1, Paul calls Jesus “the wisdom of God” in verse 24 and the one “who has become for us wisdom from God” in verse 30.

1 Corinthians 1:24 ²⁴ but to those whom God has called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ the power of God and the wisdom of God.

1 Corinthians 1:30 ³⁰ It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus, who has become for us wisdom from God—that is, our righteousness, holiness and redemption.

Proverbs 3:5-6 ⁵ Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; ⁶ in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

What does it mean to "lean not on your own understanding" in Proverbs 3:5?

God has a plan, always has had a plan, so trust Him. You don’t always have to understand. Just follow the path. The conclusion to this web of verses is this: In the New Testament, wisdom is Jesus calling, “Come to me.” Jesus doesn't just show you the path to life. He is the path. Walking with Him is what wisdom looks like.

One last little Bible Bender that is symbolic and super cool to me. In 1 Corinthians 1:24, Paul calls Christ "the wisdom of God." In the ESV and KJV versions of the New Testament, “the cross is called a tree.” Proverbs 3:18 says, “wisdom is a tree of life.”

Why does the New Testament refer to the cross as a tree?

In Greek, Tree of Life is the same word, xylon, that Revelation uses for the Tree of Life. So there you have it:

Wisdom is the Tree of Life.
Christ is the wisdom of God.
By dying on a tree, Jesus provided the way back to the Tree of Life.

Scene 3: Hold Tight to Wisdom, and You Will Never Be Afraid

Proverbs 3:21-35

²¹ My son, do not let wisdom and understanding out of your sight, preserve sound judgment and discretion; ²² they will be life for you, an ornament to grace your neck. ²³ Then you will go on your way in safety, and your foot will not stumble. ²⁴ When you lie down, you will not be afraid; when you lie down, your sleep will be sweet. ²⁵ Have no fear of sudden disaster or of the ruin that overtakes the wicked, ²⁶ for the Lord will be at your side and will keep your foot from being snared.

²⁷ Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to act. ²⁸ Do not say to your neighbor, “Come back tomorrow and I’ll give it to you”—when you already have it with you. ²⁹ Do not plot harm against your neighbor, who lives trustfully near you. ³⁰ Do not accuse anyone for no reason—when they have done you no harm. ³¹ Do not envy the violent or choose any of their ways.

³² For the Lord detests the perverse but takes the upright into his confidence. ³³ The Lord’s curse is on the house of the wicked, but he blesses the home of the righteous. ³⁴ He mocks proud mockers but shows favor to the humble and oppressed. ³⁵ The wise inherit honor, but fools get only shame.

An Anxious Generation

We live in anxious times. In fact, social psychologist Jonathan Haidt has dubbed Gen Z the anxious generation because national public health surveys documented they are experiencing elevated levels of anxiety. Fear is driving mental health. Proverbs has the solution: Wisdom.

How does pursuing biblical wisdom protect against fear and anxiety?

Wisdom brings confidence, peace, and security, and at the same time teaches us how to relate with integrity to others. Something that social media, which is driving anxiety according to psychologists, is not teaching. Because in the digital world of social media, people (kids in particular) are handed unrestricted access to influencers, addictive algorithms, and foolish youths who undermine their value and make them insecure.

This leads to anxiety, fear, depression, and hopelessness, the opposite of the life God wants for us. But listen to what wisdom offers instead:

Sleep that is sweet (Proverbs 3:24).
The Lord Himself at your side (Proverbs 3:26).
God who shows favor to the humble (Proverbs 3:34).

Scene 4: Get Wisdom as I Was Taught by My Father

Proverbs 4:1-9

¹ Listen, my sons, to a father’s instruction; pay attention and gain understanding. ² I give you sound learning, so do not forsake my teaching. ³ For I too was a son to my father, still tender, and cherished by my mother. ⁴ Then he taught me, and he said to me, “Take hold of my words with all your heart; keep my commands, and you will live. ⁵ Get wisdom, get understanding; do not forget my words or turn away from them. ⁶ Do not forsake wisdom, and she will protect you; love her, and she will watch over you. ⁷ The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding. ⁸ Cherish her, and she will exalt you; embrace her, and she will honor you. ⁹ She will give you a garland to grace your head and present you with a glorious crown.”

Precious Insight

Love this little insight. First, Solomon says, “Listen, my sons.” For the first time, sons is plural. Up until this point, he has used son, singular. I like the plural, because with 700 wives and 300 concubines, Solomon almost certainly had many sons even though Scripture names only one. I hate to think he only tried to teach Rehoboam, his heir to the throne, which would be ironic as he was extremely foolish.

Why did King Rehoboam reject the advice of Solomon’s elders in 1 Kings 12?

In 1 Kings 12, Rehoboam rejects the counsel of Solomon’s elders, and he listens to his friends instead. Rehoboam is an example of exactly what not to do. He rejected his father’s teaching, and the outcome was not good, as we learned in our Bible study of 1 Kings 12.

1 Kings 12:6-8 ⁶ Then King Rehoboam consulted the elders who had served his father Solomon during his lifetime. “How would you advise me to answer these people?” he asked.

⁷ They replied, “If today you will be a servant to these people and serve them and give them a favorable answer, they will always be your servants.” ⁸ But Rehoboam rejected the advice the elders gave him and consulted the young men who had grown up with him and were serving him..

A Second Insight

Solomon’s father was David, and this reference to David is a sweet indicator that Solomon saw his father as a man after God’s own heart. A love that was passed down to Solomon who added to it wisdom, a gift from God.

Proverbs 4:4 ⁴ Then he taught me, and he said to me, “Take hold of my words with all your heart; keep my commands, and you will live.

Finally, Solomon uses the phrase “get wisdom” twice. We are to “get it” at all costs. Wisdom is to be pursued above all else. This leads to difficult questions we must ask ourselves. What are we pursuing? On the list, where does wisdom fall? Ouch.

Scene 5: The Two Paths Comparison: Wisdom vs Wickedness

Proverbs 4:10-19

¹⁰ Listen, my son, accept what I say, and the years of your life will be many. ¹¹ I instruct you in the way of wisdom and lead you along straight paths. ¹² When you walk, your steps will not be hampered; when you run, you will not stumble. ¹³ Hold on to instruction, do not let it go; guard it well, for it is your life. ¹⁴ Do not set foot on the path of the wicked or walk in the way of evildoers. ¹⁵ Avoid it, do not travel on it; turn from it and go on your way. ¹⁶ For they cannot rest until they do evil; they are robbed of sleep till they make someone stumble. ¹⁷ They eat the bread of wickedness and drink the wine of violence.

¹⁸ The path of the righteous is like the morning sun, shining ever brighter till the full light of day. ¹⁹ But the way of the wicked is like deep darkness; they do not know what makes them stumble.

The Path of Wisdom

Clear instruction here. The path of wisdom grows brighter with every step down the path. The way of the wicked grows darker and darker, so much so that you lose sight of what is ahead. You stumble and fall.

Scene 6: Guard Your Heart, Everything You Do Flows From It

Proverbs 4:20-27

²⁰ My son, pay attention to what I say; turn your ear to my words. ²¹ Do not let them out of your sight, keep them within your heart; ²² for they are life to those who find them and health to one’s whole body. ²³ Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. ²⁴ Keep your mouth free of perversity; keep corrupt talk far from your lips. ²⁵ Let your eyes look straight ahead; fix your gaze directly before you. ²⁶ Give careful thought to the paths for your feet and be steadfast in all your ways. ²⁷ Do not turn to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil.

Listen Up

This last lesson makes me smile. As a parent, I can relate to Solomon here because I sense that his son is losing interest and Solomon is sternly admonishing. Hey, pay attention to what I say. Listen to me, turn your ear to my words. Look at me. Do not let them out of your sight. I have five kids and feel his frustrated concern that he might not be getting through to his son. His biggest concern in this speech is that, above all else, his son will guard his heart. Why?

What does "above all else, guard your heart" mean in Proverbs 4:23?

Every choice we make flows from our heart, so the heart must be protected. Solomon lays out how.

Keep your mouth clean; it flows from the heart.
Keep your eyes straight ahead, so you don’t lose your way.
Keep your feet on the path; the path leads to life.

With that, we are back where we started in these chapters. There is a path. A path to good. A path to life. Wisdom points the way.

Group Discussion Questions for Proverbs 2-4

Has the noise of social media ever stirred anxiety up in your heart? In those moments, what’s one small way you could lean into true wisdom and remind yourself the Lord is at your side?
Solomon says to pursue wisdom above all else. When you reflect on your own life, what are the things you are intentionally pursuing? Where does wisdom fall on that list?
Proverbs 3:5-6 invites us to trust God and follow His path even if we don’t understand. What is an area of your life that’s particularly hard to avoid leaning on your own understanding?

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